Thursday, October 06, 2016

5 Stages of Life

Yesterday, there was a technology session at my workplace. There was a very interesting concept of tribal leadership that was shared during that session. In its true sense, the topic will be too bland for me to express here. So I am putting it down here with my own variation.

There are five different stages of life culture.


Stage 1: Life sucks—when you think, overall, life is cruel and unjust for everyone and there is nothing in it to cherish. The only thing that matters to you is your survival, either by hook or by crook. 

Stage 2: My Life Sucks—when you think it’s only your life that sucks, whereas for others, life is still great. It is only you who are the victim of all the injustice and unfairness happening around you. Nothing can happen right in your life. There are no passions and excitement left in your life. 

Stage 3: I’m great, you‘re not—when it’s all about you. You think you were born to be great, and you undermine others. You alone have all the rights, whereas the others don’t have any. A sense of pride, along with arrogance, creeps into your mind. 

Stage 4: We’re great; they’re not—when you are part of a certain group that collaborates together and has trust among its members. As a team, they look for their own best first before others. 

Stage 5: Life’s great—that’s when you work for the greater good. You strive to make the lives of people around you better regardless of any association. Your aim and passion are selfless.

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

2015: A year in review - Challenges and Regrets

I have become very lazy about writing; perhaps I have been too busy at work. It is already August 2016 and I haven’t put any reminiscences of 2015 on my blog. Let me start. 

2015 started with a slow routine. I was working for a client whose office was near my home. For the first time in my Australian life, I started commuting to work by car. Because of my previous work locations, I used to catch a train daily for work, and in Australia, it’s more convenient to use public transport as compared to using a car. Anyhow, I have developed a few friendships at work, something that always helps me to get accustomed to a new environment. One of my colleagues had issues with my manager, and he resigned. Even though that incident happened in December 2015, its effects were still felt in the early days of 2016. For the rest of the first quarter, there was nothing worthwhile that happened which I can share. Let me jump to the second quarter. 

In May, I was contacted by a recruiter and offered a job at the Wyong shire council. This place was more than an hour away from Sydney. The salary was very good, and the timing was flexible, and, besides, it was a government job, so it was expected that there would be little work pressure. But because of my overthinking, I decided not to take that job as I thought it would break my routine as I had to relocate and blah blah... Anyhow, I decided to stick with my current job; a decision which I regretted for the rest of the year. 

After a month, my manager resigned. Later, some more colleagues resigned. My company was not doing very well in the market. They also started firing employees. The project on which I was working also had a road block. There were commercial issues between my company and the client. There was not much for me to do at work. I was mostly sitting idle in the office. Somehow, this made me lose interest in my current company, and I started to lose motivation to work. 

During that time, my parents visited me in Sydney. It was June 2015. Before their arrival, I changed my car and replaced my Toyota Camry with a Mitsubishi Outlander. That was a very impulsive decision. In fact, an hour ago, I was not even thinking of replacing my Camry with an Outlander. But somehow the sales guy was very good and I fell for it. Later, I regretted this decision a lot. My parents stayed with me for 2 months, and that was the longest time I had spent with them in the last 5 years. It was time well spent. During that time, my father planted an idea in my head that I should buy a house in Sydney, something I had never given serious thought to. Houses in Sydney are very expensive. Melbourne was somehow less expensive to buy a house in and, besides, we had already lived there last year, so I decided to relocate to Melbourne. For that purpose, I started looking for a job in Melbourne.

In July, my sister was visiting Pakistan from the UK. I hadn’t met her in the past 3 years, so I decided to visit Pakistan in August. I got a week to spend time with her and her family. I stayed in Pakistan for 4 weeks. I didn’t have a very good time there on that trip. I had an issue with my father about some petty things. He felt I was rude to him in front of everyone. Also, while remaining there, I was contacted for job interviews in Australia, which didn’t go anywhere. However, I was glad I was able to close a chapter of my life on that trip. But it did mess up my personal life for many years to come. I seriously regret it. Anyway, I returned to Sydney in September. At that time, I was still looking to switch jobs, so I resumed my job hunt more actively. I started applying for jobs in Sydney and Melbourne. I gave almost a dozen interviews, but I was not able to get through even a single one. I started feeling helpless. I also started losing the confidence and zeal required to perform in job interviews. In parallel, I also started having issues with my manager. In December, I was interviewed at PWC for a job, and I got affirmation from them that they were keen to hire me. They asked me to wait till January of next year to receive formal acceptance. In parallel, I also got a contract opportunity in Canberra. I don’t know why I didn’t refuse that contract job, but I decided to keep that option open too. I just wanted to make sure that I had at least one offer in hand. I decided that once I receive formal acceptance from PWC, I will decline this contract offer. But for this, I have to wait till January. What happened next? Read that in my reminiscences of 2016 :P

Overall, it was a very challenging year for me. I felt demotivated and depressed, mostly because of my work life.

Thursday, July 07, 2016

Do you remember that Pain ?

Do you remember that pain? How does it feel when someone breaks your heart? No??? Let me remind you how it feels. Every word spoken or unspoken feels like someone digging a dagger in your heart... each part of your body burns with each of those words... you suffocate and can’t breathe... you want to cry but you find out that you have already run out of tears... you want to scream but you can’t open up your mouth... you walk down the road aimlessly... your head feels heavy... your heart feels low... you can’t sleep for nights and when you do, you find yourself crying in dreams... you feel hungry but you can’t eat... your heart curses that person even if you don’t want to.. Do you remember that pain now?

I have forgotten this pain now. Time heals everything. I have read this after many years, and I feel so sorry for myself that I had to go through this. I am really sorry. very sorry. It wasn't worth it.

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